By Frank Mallinder
Ask yourself, if my life were made into a movie would it be an Academy Award winner where everyone is clamoring for a sequel or a B-Grade movie that no one has searched for on Netflix in ten years?
Unfortunately for many people, the latter is the answer.
Most of us want to star in an Academy Award-winning life but can’t seem to get the right part or any part for that matter.
Let’s see why that happens.
The average person has between 50,000-60,000 thoughts per day. These thoughts are the foundation for the script of the movie that plays in your head all day every day. What most people don’t know is that these thoughts are the reflection of the patterns that were essentially formed in your subconscious in early childhood. We learn these patterns either directly or indirectly by the important people in our early life. These patterns are created so that you will have a definition of normal. A definition of normal helps you to know whether you are physically or emotionally safe. When the subconscious detects a pattern that is outside of our definition of normal a warning goes off triggering the fight or flight mechanism. Researchers say that 80% of our thoughts are negative which means that most of the patterns of life are rooted in fear.
So, you have a movie playing in your head that even you don’t want to watch that was produced and directed by someone else and 80% of the time the movie has a fear-based plot and lousy ending. B-rated at best. And to top it off the same movie keeps repeating itself so that you know all of the lines before they are even uttered. Who said the movie “Ground Hog Day” was fiction?
As long as this B-grade movie is running in your head, it is difficult to have dreams for your life that are as big as the real possibilities for your life. Furthermore, any success you may have after one of your limited dreams comes true is diminished by your inability to believe it is real.
To star in a new movie you need a new script, director, and a more powerful leading actor.
It is time to create your own set of patterns in your subconscious so that the movie you are running is in synch with who you are and it brings out all of your talents.
No, I am not going to give you a solution to all of your problems, just some help in discovering why this B movie keeps playing and some actions to take to begin on your Academy Award-winning script and performance.
Greatness of all kinds begins with clarity on what you want to accomplish. Begin your journey to fulfillment by taking a few minutes to write down what you want your Academy Award-winning movie on your life to be about. Keep in mind that most often movies are only about a point in the life of the star. Imagine you are making a movie about the unbelievable next two years of your life – write it down. Don’t let outtakes from your old B movie get in the way – just breathe deeply and let it flow. Put your notes away for a day or two and don’t think about it. After 48 hours go back and make director’s notes on how the star will be feeling at various points in this award-winning film, starring you.
About now the current lousy movie that runs all of the time in your head is saying that this exercise is a waste of time. The job of the subconscious, i.e., your movie director, is to keep you safe and not let you stray from what was defined as possible for you a long time ago and you had little or no input to that definition.
Try to ignore it for 15 minutes. If you don’t ignore the old movie it will just keep running.
Now that you have successfully ignored the old movie, what is the most important behavior you must engage in to make the life you are filming come true? Just jot it down. Don’t worry about being able to do the behavior consistently.
The next step in the process is to notice anytime you have a chance to engage in your academy award winning behavior. Take notice of the old B movie behavior as it injects itself and the old script repeats itself.
At the beginning of week two plan to engage in your award-winning behavior as often as you can. Don’t worry if you miss a few chances, just learn from it and go on to the next opportunity to be a star.
- Make notes about your Academy Award-winning movie. Remember, you’re the Star!
- After a few days make some notes about how you, as the star of this film, will feel.
- Ignore the inner movie critic that is telling you that your new film is a waste of time.
- For one week notice the times when you have a chance to behave as the “star,” and your past performances jumps up and takes over. Just be aware – you don’t have to change any behavior.
- At the beginning of Week Two engage in your “star” behavior whenever you become aware of an opportunity to do it. You will miss some chances, just learn from it and move on.
Can you feel the Golden Statue in your hand as you accept the award for making your dreams come true? I know I am cheering very loudly for what you have accomplished.
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Featured artwork: Marilyn Monroe by A.D. Cook (for Hollywood Video, circa 1991)
Ms. Monroe Trivia: Marilyn Monroe won or was nominated for, several awards during her career. Those she won included the Henrietta Award for Best Young Box Office Personality (1951) and World Film Favorite (1953), and a Crystal Star Award and David di Donatello Award for The Prince and the Showgirl (1958). She was inducted into the Hollywood Walk of Fame in 1960 and a Golden Palm Star was dedicated at the Palm Springs Walk of Stars in 1995. In the 1999 American Film Institute’s list of AFI’s 100 Years…100 Stars, she was ranked as the sixth greatest film star; two of the films in which she appeared—Some Like It Hot and The Asphalt Jungle—have been added to the Library of Congress’s National Film Registry, and the former earned her a Golden Globe for Best Actress. She continues to be considered a major icon in American popular culture.
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Untapped potential exists within all people. In Practical Wisdom, author and intuitive coach Frank Mallinder shares practical wisdom that can help individuals live purposeful, high-energy lives that truly match their distinctive talents and capabilities. Filled with real-life examples, Practical Wisdom gives simple yet powerful steps that can dramatically improve people’s lives. Mallinder helps readers face their fears of making big life changes and assists them in determining how their talents can be used and challenged every day through these objectives. Built on a technique guided by the four Cs-courage, clarity, commitment, and compassion, Mallinder shows how people can create new soul-enriching and ambitious life patterns by choosing to do what they’ve always wanted to accomplish in many aspects of their lives. Practical Wisdom provides step-by-step guides and formulas that aim to help readers let go of the fears that have prevented them from passionately engaging in life. By discovering their own directions and truths, people will live more meaningful and fulfilling lives.